Easing the Transition Back Home

It’s been a long 9 months for you and your student. It’s the first time they’ve been away from you and your home for this long of a period! You probably don’t want to admit it…but you’re finally starting to get used to the extra space around the house. Your routine finally is normalized and your everyday life isn’t consumed by all your student’s needs. But summer is approaching, which means they are coming home. You’re delighted! You’ve missed them so much! But…things are different. We have made a list of tips and suggestions to help you and your student get back in the groove of things as they return home for the summer.

  1. Things are different
    • Your student has experienced the joys of living on their own, and the freedom that comes with it. They have discovered who they are (or are in the process of it) and it may not be the same person you sent off last summer, but that’s ok! Reminding yourself that they need their space as much as you need yours is key. Make sure to talk with your student and get caught up on the last 9 months.
  2. Set up some base rules and expectations
    • Since things have changed, it may be best to talk with your student when they return home to make sure you are on the same page. Creating a new set of expectations WITH your student can help define boundaries for the both of you and will hopefully alleviate any issues that may come up down the road.
  3. Don’t pressure yourself to make every meal and do all the laundry
    • Although it’s nice to be able to care for your student once again, don’t stress about things that consumed your life before college. They’ve learned how to be self-dependent, they can wash their own socks. It also might be an opportunity to get them to help around the house.
  4. Discuss summer plans
    • Your student may be home for the summer, but what will they be doing? Are they taking classes online? What about a summer internship? Regardless of what your student is doing, it is important that you are aware of their overarching plans and can be in the loop regarding when they will be home, if they will be out of town, and when they plan on returning to FSU.
  5. Enjoy every moment
    • We know you’ve missed your student terribly, and although 3 months may seem like a long time when you start, it’ll fly by! Do all the things you and your student love to do and discover new things for you to explore together.
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